Say for instance, you’re a person who is anti-social. Being with people gives you anxiety and you avoid making plans just because you know you’d truly rather stay at home, no matter how pressured you are into getting out. So, you intend to stick to your guns and stay home.
But you somehow allow yourself to get wrangled into something that seems unavoidable. A party. A dinner. A get-together of some sort. You sign on, confirm with friends, and you tell yourself that maybe, just maybe, it’ll be… fun.
As the appointment time gets closer, you realize that you have two choices: go and suffer the slings and arrows of socializing, or bail and become that person with no integrity. You are now the one who doesn’t show up, the one who disappoints. And all of this could have been much easier had you only said no.
The inability to say no is where you went wrong, and that is how you fell victim to self-sabotage. We all do this to some degree, but why? Why do we rain on our own parades? Why do we consciously get involved in things we want nothing to do with? This is how each zodiac sign in astrology sabotages themselves.
ARIES (March 21 – April 19)
Thinking they know too much, Aries often times offers information that is unfounded and formed out of their own opinion rather than fact. Aries will end up screwing themselves royally because they insisted they were right, when they were dead wrong and called out on it.
TAURUS (April 20 – May 20)
Taurus sabotages themselves every time they commit to a romantic relationship. This sign is not to be tied down, yet, they, like the rest of the human race, seek to partner up in an attempt to “do the right thing.”
What happens is that they are, by nature, promiscuous and end up feeling frustrated throughout their relationship, wondering why they did this to themselves yet again.
GEMINI (May 21 – June 20)
Gemini sabotages themselves the moment they decide to do something with another person. They feel strongly that all people are inferior to them, and it only makes sense to be cruel and show no mercy.
What trips them up is when they accidentally make friends with a person; it’s too good, and so they bolt, leaving the new friend in shock.
CANCER (June 21 – July 22)
Cancer makes the mistake of trusting people too much, and this trust is what adds to their self-sabotage. Once they become skeptical of you, they turn on you — hard.
Cancer is the most unforgiving sign of them all, and they know this about themselves, which is why making friends, for Cancer, is akin to self-sabotage.
LEO (July 23 – August 22)
Leo has no problem betraying friends, family, or loved ones, and though they aren’t proud of it, they also know they can’t say no. They sabotage everything in their lives because they only think of themselves, and yet, all they do is bring in more and more friends.
Luckily, they can still attract people, but for Leo, friends do not last because Leo ruins friendships by the dozen.
VIRGO (August 23 – September 22)
A natural lack of self-esteem always gets Virgo in trouble, and what sabotages all Virgos is that sense within that they are not good enough. This leads to them creating a front, an alternate “tough” identity to hide behind. Virgo self-sabotages by hating themselves.
LIBRA (September 23 – October 22)
Libra cannot say yes or no, so that non-committal attitude ends up bringing them lots and lots of… nothing. Libra sabotages their life by lying to everyone around them, causing immense distrust.
Nobody ever trusts a Libra, and that, in itself, is pure, unmitigated self-sabotage.
SCORPIO (October 23 – November 21)
It’s hard to be the Big Bad all day long, and Scorpio is hellbent on keeping up appearances. However, being strict, uptight and cruel 24/7 is a hard job to maintain, and Scorpio secretly craves a break.
In trying to impress the world with their evil, they end up unable to express their marshmallow side, and that kind of self-sabotage leads to health issues. Embrace your soft side, Scorpio; you’ll love yourself for it.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 – December 21)
Another of the anti-social signs, Sagittarius seriously does not want to get together for a drink. So, why then do they always agree to have that drink?
Because they are people pleasers, and even though they can say no, they usually end up self-sabotaging by taking on a sense of being responsible for the happiness of others. That’s a burden no Sagittarius can handle, yet they give themselves this gift again and again.
CAPRICORN (December 22 – January 19)
They want to say the right thing, but their passion gets in the way, and often times the gift of gab becomes How Capricorn Has Just Destroyed You With Insensitive Words.
They don’t know when to shut up, and they know they have to or they will lose everything and everyone they love. Capricorn sabotages themselves by saying way too much more than anyone ever wants to hear.
AQUARIUS (January 20 – February 18)
Due to a deeply ingrained neurosis, Aquarius wants very much to be accepted. In order to feel a part of it all, they sign on to things they know they won’t like.
For the sake of someone else’s approval, they will sabotage their own dreams and leave themselves with nothing. In other words, they want to be liked, and in order to get people to stay with them, they’ll sacrifice their own dreams.
PISCES (February 19 – March 10)
Pisces shows too much emotion and that makes them vulnerable. They don’t believe in holding back, and, honestly, that kind of non-stop sharing of emotion really tries people’s patience.
They mean well, but they give too much and nobody wants too much. They sabotage almost all of their emotional experiences by sharing too freely, even when they know no one is interested.